Question for the "other" sex.

[dr.placebo]

What question would you most like to ask the opposite sex and get an honest answer? Of course, if you don't identify as strictly M or F, or you just want to mix things up, then don't follow the "rules." Ask a question or give a comment.

Since I'm male, I'll give a starter for the women:

What is your favorite costume on the playa for men to wear?

[GrumpyOldBastard]

nothing.



heh

[Lecter]

I've tried asking questions of the opposite sex, but they always run away screaming the moment they see me.

An honest answer, eh?

"What do you want out of a relationship?"

[Chai Guy]

"Where do YOU want this relationship to go?"

[karr]

Why can't you just be honest instead of beating around the bush?

[dr.placebo]

I'm not sure about the context of Karr's question, but I'll take a quick try at an honest answer.

When I have been least honest in a relationship is when I have been most fearful: fear of rejection, fear of being hurt, fear of being alone. Now that's not a good excuse, of course, for dishonesty. It is, though, a start at an answer.

One can imagine that manipulation and deceit come into play for basically dishonest people. But I'd guess that fear and related insecurity play a larger part for most.

[GrumpyOldBastard]

Why can't you just be honest instead of beating around the bush?

"does this dress/pants/shorts make me look fat?" 99% of women REALLY dont want an honest answer to that one. if a guy was to answer that one honestly, there would be no children in this world.

[Euphoria]

You know, Grumpy, there's a very easy way around that which actually includes the truth. Why not just say something like "actually, you look so much sexier in (whatever the item is) that you can never go wrong wearing that.

Of course, if it's a situation where you're shopping with the person just tell her it doesn't make the most of her assets.

Believe me when I tell you that we ask our loved ones these questions for our own protection--if you love us you really want everyone to see us at our best, right?

[GrumpyOldBastard]

heheh there ya go, making me use my brain and talk "tactfully". it is actually a very blunt question, and honestly deserves a blunt answer. "does this make me look fat"? yes or no. that simple. why beat around the bush? i always tell my friends "if you dont want to know my honest answer, dont ask me the question". if more people would learn to ask and answer honestly, (and learn to take the answer in the spirit it was intended) there would be alot less strife in the world today.


so.... "does theis make me look fat?" yup. lets go look for another.
































































SLAP!

[Blade]

"if you dont want to know my honest answer, dont ask me the question"


Hear hear!

... and don't ask a trick question if you're not trying to start drama, either!

[Scout]

I’m surprised you haven’t asked the worst question you can ask a man, which is, “What are you thinking.” A woman should NEVER ask that question of a man…..ever.

[DaBomb]

What are you thinking? Why the hell not?

[Scout]

Here are the reason(s) a woman should NEVER ask a man, “What are you thinking?”

(I could get my boy card taken away for telling this, but here it goes.)

There are 3 answers a straight man will give to a woman when asked, “What are you thinking?”

Answer #1 THE STUPID ANSWER

Q: “What are you thinking?”

A: “I wonder what Ken Griffey Jr’s batting average is right now.”

The reason a man gives you THE STUPID ANSWER is because he is trying to hide answer #2…

Answer #2 THE WRONG ANSWER also known as THE TRUTH

Q: “What are you thinking?”

A: “I wonder what you look like naked and sitting…………….”

This is what the poor dolt is thinking, but he is going to give you answer #1 because he has given answer #2 before and still has the slap marks on his face. (You can always tell you have asked a man what he considers a trick question by the really STUPID look he has on his face. Please tell me you know this.) Trick question = a question a man has to think about

If when asked, "What are you thinking?" a man gives you answer #3 it should be a signal for all women run.

Answer #3 THE MANIPULITIVE ANSWER

Q: “What are you thinking?”

A: “I was wondering what it would be like to just cuddle with you for a while.”

NO man would ever say anything about cuddling with you. This man is a lying sack of shit and should NEVER be trusted. He is only giving this answer to try to manipulate you. RUN as fast as you can away from this guy!!!!

Asking a man “What are you thinking?” is a question our small brain can not handle. Please take it easy on the poor guy and ask questions they don’t have to think too hard to answer… please. All questions where you have to think are just trick questions.

Scout

[dr.placebo]

The "truth" is that both men and women rarely have a good idea about what they are thinking because thought is fragmented. Our stream of consciousness is actually more like the web of a drug addled spider.

Let's suppose that a man is thinking about the sexual attributes of a woman he is with, and let's further suppose that he actually says so. Sometimes this is exactly the right answer! There are few people (male or female) who can avoid wanting to be physically desirable (at least sometimes). Most are also quite offended if their other attributes are ignored. So if the woman is in a frame of mind that enjoys being desired then a man avoids saying so at his peril. He might say "your presentation of the sales report was impressive" when she is thinking "I just spent $60 on this bra that shows off my tits and if you don't notice them THIS INSTANT I will start to scream."

To return to the issue of my male thinking, though, as opposed to general male speech, I do think of a lot of different things even if we restrict these thoughts to those times when I am with an interesting woman. A thought may go through that has nothing to do with the woman (in which case responding "my mind was wandering" is probably the wisest choice). Or I might be thinking about her physical presence, or her amazing intuition, or her gentle way of handling children, or her potential for anger, or the last time we hiked in the Sierras, or the dinner we cooked together, or any fleeting combination of the above.

In short, any man worth knowing will have a thread of lust in his web of thought. And any man worth knowing will have a lot more on his mind as well.

[Lecter]

(I could get my boy card taken away for telling this, but here it goes.)Sir, and I use that term loosely, please hand over your boy card, your testosterone license and your proof of insurance.

We will expect your written resignation within one business week.

:)

[Blade]

You can always tell you have asked a man what he considers a trick question by the really STUPID look he has on his face. Please tell me you know this


Of course, but we kinda think it's cute... <grin>



(*Not* saying a "trick question" happens on purpose, that's just not right.)

[Scout]

[QUOTE=Lecter]Sir, and I use that term loosely, please hand over your boy card, your testosterone license and your proof of insurance.

We will expect your written resignation within one business week.


Sorry Officer (Lecter) I lost my license a long time ago. But, it won’t keep me from continuing to make stupid remarks……sorry?


Scout

[Scout]

Sir, and I use that term loosely, please hand over your boy card, your testosterone license and your proof of insurance.

We will expect your written resignation within one business week.

:)


Sorry Officer (Lecter) I lost my license a long time ago. But, it won’t keep me from continuing to make stupid remarks……sorry?


Scout

[Scout]

Of course, but we kinda think it's cute... <grin>



(*Not* saying a "trick question" happens on purpose, that's just not right.)


You say its cute now, but wait until that’s the only response you get. Then it’s not so cute.

Remember any question where a man has to think is a trick question……really?


Scout

[Scout]

In short, any man worth knowing will have a thread of lust in his web of thought. And any man worth knowing will have a lot more on his mind as well.


OK, Doc, are you trying to tell me it’s OK to have a boner while wondering what Ken Griffey Jr’s batting average is? See, you got me thinking and that’s never good.


Scout

[Blade]

You say its cute now, but wait until that’s the only response you get. Then it’s not so cute.

Scout


Ooh, now that's a fact!

[ibdave]

At least Scout still has his Po Po. He can still pee while standing up...

[dr.placebo]

Scout, it's perfectly OK to be aroused by Ken Griffey if that's your thing (personally I swing the other way, so to speak).

[Scout]

Scout, it's perfectly OK to be aroused by Ken Griffey if that's your thing (personally I swing the other way, so to speak).


You mean you get a boner for Barry Bonds? I’m sorry with all those steroids in his system he must not have much for you these days.

Scout

[Scout]

At least Scout still has his Po Po. He can still pee while standing up...


Thank you Dave for the Po Po reverence. Here is the story behind that reference.

At my first burn in 2001 Danny (of Mike and Danny) gave me a pair of see through pants to wear the night of the burn. While waiting for everyone else to get ready a very large good looking gay man who had come into our camp looked at me and said, ‘I can see your Po Po.” and touched my, well, Po Po. Danny seeing this came running over yelling, “HE’S STRAIGHT!!!!!!” Danny was really freaked out while I thought it was really funny. (So did my wife when I showed her the pants and told her the story.) It’s good to have friends that protect you like Danny.

Scout

[ChaCha]

Thank you Dave for the Po Po reverence. Here is the story behind that reference.

Scout

So is it the 'reverence' or the 'reference' to your Po Po you're thanking Dave for?

[Scout]

It’s both Reverence and Reference……OK, it’s not. Dyslexic me (and this is the truth) typed the wrong word, but it still sounds good. If you saw what I see when you read stuff you would be just as confused as I sound most of the time. Not that I’m making any excuses for being left of center most of the time.

The fun part about being dyslexic is you can read the same book many times and it’s different every time you read it. (I am not kidding) If I didn’t have spell check you would never be able to figure out what in the heck I’m talking about….like it really helps.

Scout

[ChaCha]

….like it really helps.
Scout

-- :D --

[ChaCha]

how is it that the two left standing on this thread are boys? Wasn't this supposed to be questions for the *other* gender?

[Blade]

You have any questions?

[ChaCha]

Sure. Bikini or Brazillian?
n' why?

[Blade]

Hell naw! I'm more a natural gal, myself, and I don't care what other people do.

[Scout]

Ya, I have a question for you Gals. Why is it that when you say, “It doesn’t really matter.” That is the thing that REALLY matters the most?


Scout

[Blade]

Ugh, can't help you with that one- I can't stand that passive-aggressive shit!